Surprisingly, they have a fairly modern and optimistic view of life.My grandmother although less educated than her husband is in no way subservient or timid.Both styles of marriage have advantages and limitations.
Even so, stated below are certain facts and figures about marriage from UNICEF: – Divorce rate in India = 1.1% – Global divorce rate for arranged marriages = 6% – Percentage of women in South Asia forced to marry before 18 = 48% Does this automatically imply that arranged marriages are successful?
Does it mean that two people who had an arranged marriage are completely accepting and comfortable with each other, enough to spend their entire lives together, happily? While most couples in an arranged marriage have come to an understanding about acceptance towards the other, it is more an insight into one’s own strengths and weaknesses and whether they wish to let an issue slide or face it head on.
” – which translates to “Do you even have the common sense to know the right match for you or would you rather choose your Mr.
Right and make a blunder for life in the name of love!
It is about weighing the pros and cons of getting into an argument or tussle with an individual to whom you are not sure of revealing your innermost thoughts and feelings; after all, it’s not as if the two individuals were great friends before entering into the matrimonial alliance.
Furthermore, there are several couples who live in the same house yet do not communicate at all; or couples who have been living in different cities or homes and have no relationship between them.
Theirs is a marriage of equals where they may have entered into their marital alliance as per an arranged structure but have allowed contemporary views to build their relationship over the last 68 years, happily and respectfully.
While I harbour respect to both kinds of marriages, I choose to take the path where I may maintain my individuality and maturity.
It takes effort, time and patience by both partners invested in it to make it work well.
As both have a voice and a level of independence, the desire and willingness to function as interdependent entities is crucial in every marriage.
My paternal grandparents who are in their late 80’s and residing in a small village in Punjab, come from a generation where the man was the only breadwinner and the woman the homemaker.