Last I checked, there are only two people in every relationship.Your relationship is for you, and so are your decisions.
"There is no 'normal.' Partners may have an implicit expectation of the length of an engagement, based on their family, their culture and their community.Sometimes this is different for each partner, and if it is not significantly discussed in a very explicit way, it can lead to misunderstandings." She continues: "There is no magic time frame when a couple should date before the engagement, but the rule for any happy and successful marriage is to realize this—all couples go through a 'romantic love' phase.Don't give up a single day for one singular opinion.No relationship is the same, and people who think they've had what you have are as delusional as those who think a specific timeline will save their relationship." data-og-url="https:// data-canonical-url="https:// data-amphtml-url="https:// How long did you and your fiance date before he or she proposed—and what's considered normal?
Well, this might not come as a shock, but there's no definition of what's "normal." Answers can vary from decades of dating to four days (wow! Even though everyone—your parents and extended family members and friends—will have an opinion on the matter, from "You're jumping in too quickly!
It’s easy to say moving in after four months is a recipe for disaster and marriage after a year is asking for failure. The ones who waited five years to move in and 10 to get married? Because if we’re looking at the couples before us (our parents), their 52-percent divorce rate should not be something to take notes from. Singing about it, dreaming of it and praying for it. Why waste another minute, another second, another day denying yourself it?
You don’t judge them for rushing, but when they get divorced, what are you judging them for then? We have a habit of trying to make patterns out of failures and rules out of love. Jump into it, drown in it, immerse yourself in the warm pool of it. Who cares if you’re going to move in together or get married?
This lasts anywhere from 2 days to 26 months, and then the couple will enter into the power struggle or the conflict phase of their relationship.
This is natural and probably will last the rest of your marriage, or forever (the bad news).
The good news—with conscious communication and planning, a successful marriage means that conflict is inevitable (it has absolutely no reflection on whether or not you are in a marriage that will last), but how you repair your conflict is much more important.