It may not be a huge red flag if he doesn’t initiate the conversation, but it may mean he is not ready to lead you spiritually.Give him grace, but if you have to keep initiating every single boundary conversation = red flag.To help us further understand this point, I want to look to scripture.
Each time I had to be the one to pull away and stop.
I know kissing involves two people, but he didn’t seem to care about protecting my heart or having physical boundaries.
I know you may think this is okay because you want to get married and may even be engaged, but I would urge you to wait.
God knows what is best for you and longs to protect your heart.
My thought was I’m still a “good” Christian girl because I wasn’t having sex. Since I know that I could easily slip back into sexual sin (especially if he wasn’t trying to protect us), I had to break up with my boyfriend. This question does not have a simple yes or no answer. First, answer these questions: How long have you been dating? In my previous dating situation, I was the one who realized and said that the boundaries were crossed every time. If you are the only one who cares about the boundaries, you have a problem. But this answer is coming from the dating perspective, not marriage.
Now, after giving my life to God and walking with the Holy Spirit, I want to obey God physically. But during my relationship with my ex-boyfriend, the Holy Spirit convicted my heart every time we went too far physically. Does hugging and cuddling lead to temptation to go further sexually? There is a difference between an innocent hug goodbye and an intense cuddle session. To help determine if hugging and cuddling will tempt you, it is important to examine both of your pasts. This is a sign that he is not spiritually ready to lead you or to be in a relationship. If your boyfriend keeps crossing the line and pushing boundaries and not seeming to care – RED FLAG.When you find a guy who can deny his sexual desires while you are dating, you can trust him long term in a marriage relationship that he won’t cheat on you.When sex enters a relationship confusion and expectations are changed – regret, shame, and self blame enter the relationship.If he doesn’t bring up important topics now, will he in marriage?I was dating a guy who said he was a Christian, but before we were official we held hands, cuddled, and made out.When women ask their honest questions about sexuality, the most common ones typically relate to whether certain things are right or wrong for Christian women to engage in. Here are a few examples: There are plenty of opinions available on each of these questions. My opinion on these questions doesn’t matter, nor does your best friend’s. If you truly want your sexuality to be an expression of your love for Christ, the only opinion that matters is his. If you are a child of God, you are a stranger on this earth.