It was heartbreaking to watch my friend’s intercultural relationship fall apart (and even harder to not pick a side).I wondered where it went wrong – but the answer was pretty obvious to everyone involved.Being in love is one of the best feelings in the world.
[For more, check out: AMWF the Unfinished Wikipedia Article] Thankfully, the internet is a wonderful place that connects people from all walks of life. AMWF stands for Asian Male, White Female, meaning couples composed of an Asian Man and a White Woman.
It represents a small minority of interracial couples, most American, Australian, and European women dating Korean, Japanese, and Chinese men.
If you do not respect and appreciate your partners culture (to the extent you are willing to forsake elements of your own culture for their benefit), intercultural and interracial relationships are nearly impossible.
I started to wonder if there were any other couples “out there” like me.
Love is not enough to keep a relationship going, it is definitely not enough to conquer all problems, but it certainly helps. [For more, check out: Things I love about Japan: Couple Wear] Intercultural dating is a lot of things. Two years later, and I never know what to expect on dates. But I really fell in love with the culture once I started dating Ryosuke. He was the one who helped me understand the types of sexism in Japan (for more, check out this post) But living with him, his family, and his friends, I have been given the enormously unique opportunity of doing participant observation of the Japanese culture.
A romantic walk on the beach is never just a romantic walk on the beach. And, well, I started this blog to document what I found.
However, hundreds of other countries and nationalities are also represented.
Now I want to share my own story – regarding the good, the bad, and the ugly of an AMWF relationship. The term “AMWF” has only popped up in the last couple years.
During race discussions at my school, most of the white women I talk to say things like “I’ve never seen racism, so I don’t think it still exists” or “racism isn’t real – they are just imagining it!
” Or men that say “sexism isn’t a problem, women over exaggerate everything!
And it is a little bit scary trying to live day by day. The hardest part of an intercultural relationship is deciding when to compromise, when to fight, and when to draw the line. What are you supposed to do if your partner is completely opposed to your religion?