Dating a deployed soldier

He needs to relax and enjoy himself instead of going from one war to the next. What can I do to draw attention to my soldier’s situation? Sincerely, Stuck in a Serious Situation ***** Dear Ms.

Vicki, I’m writing you to find out if I am being scammed by this man who I met on Facebook.

Each week, I get letters by email, on my website, by Twitter and on Facebook from women who are sending money to Africa and Afghanistan to help service members come home. These are not men who are in the United States military. I tried to raise the money but was making myself sick trying. I really need your help because I’m trying to help my Army guy from Fort Campbell.

One minute, he is in Afghanistan and the next minute he is in Africa.I have to send him money from time to time so that he can stay in constant communication with me, but that’s OK because I understand that he cannot have access to his money because he is constantly on the go. Military members can access their money from overseas.I hadn’t heard from him for over three weeks, and I was so worried. Lots of military members do use dating sites to meet people in their community. They pay bills online, buy items from websites and even arrange for car loans. Service members do not have to pay for internet connections, food or travel expenses etc. Even if a service member misses a connecting flight, the military takes care of this. Liars love to claim they are in Delta Force, Army Rangers, Navy Seals or Special Ops. Military members can be sent on an unaccompanied tour for a year or two.Two days ago, he called me and said he needs money so he can come home. But you should know that bad guys use dating sites, too. If this “service member” swears he loves you and wants to marry you before he has even met you, beware. Report him to the website and stop communicating with him. Just because someone you met online gives you a name, rank, duty station or even military ID card, that doesn’t mean that this is a real person. If they ask you for money -- even a loan, this is a scam. During a year-long deployment, service members may be sent home for R&R. Commanding officers in the United States military do not call girlfriends, fiancées or family members asking for money. If someone you met online claims to be stranded in an airport, do not send them money. If these individuals really were in special ops, they would never tell you -- never. Deployments in the past have lasted up to fifteen months. If your family and friends think this is a scam, it is.He responded that he would rather forget about the phone than to lose me. His commander contacted me and said he still needs ,000 before he can be released. He has been through so much on these deployments to Iraq and Afghanistan.

It’s so unfair that the military would put all of these restrictions on them before releasing them.The man she was communicating with knew all of her personal information, including where she lived. These scammers are professionals who know just how to tug your heartstrings. Normal 0 false false false EN-US X-NONE X-NONE Microsoft Internet Explorer4 If you feel you have been scammed by a person claiming to be in the U. military, your best bet is to contact the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) and the Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3).This is serious because this woman put her life in jeopardy! The bottom line is that if you are communicating with a "service member" who starts asking you for money, don’t pass go. The people behind military dating scams do not give up easily. Scammers are frequently located overseas, limiting prosecution options U. Spending your money -- and more importantly the hours of your life -- on a scam artist is not bringing you closer to love.My family is very upset with me because they think I’m crazy for sending money to someone I have never met. Trust yourself and stop communicating now before he asks you for money. One woman wrote me and said she had given more than ,000 to a man who is supposedly a service member.I think I’m in love and helping a man who is serving our country. Afterward, she was a victim of bank fraud and her home was vandalized.These scams where you believe you are dating a soldier are becoming more and more common. Do you think I am being paranoid or now that he has made his decision and picked me. He isn’t going to use me for time off and then blow me off when he gets back to the states.. The thing that sticks out most to me is him asking you to write to request time off for him so he can get married. The Army does not process requests for time off from the girlfriend (or wife for that matter) of a soldier. Some units will not even allow individual time off and the soldier can only have leave when the unit as a whole takes it.