Because, as a people who have historically received so much hatred, we, Black women and men, so desperately deserve love and respect.
However, Black men are twice as likely to marry outside their race than Black women, and there is a unique, community issue of some Black men explicitly not wanting to date Black women at all, which isn’t as common in other races.
There is no problem with a Black man dating interracial, but it becomes a problem if he refuses to date Black women based on stereotypes, preconceived notions and unconscious self-hatred.
You’ll see how quick we are to point out our issues with the other gender, but rarely accept hard truths about our gender or do anything to change them.
What if we started thinking of solutions, instead of just the problems?
It’s another ugly stereotype, and there are plenty of successful, educated, self-motivated Black women out there. See.” Unfortunately, however, this comes off to men as not wanting a man at all.
Some of these women use “I don’t need a man” to say: “Hey, we’re not all like that. You’re successful, stable and have enough self-love that you don’t need a man, but you want one, right?
However, just because a Black woman may not need a man to be a provider, this doesn’t dismiss her need to have him as a partner.
Some Black women feel the need to show off that they can take care of themselves because of other complaints from Black men that there are Black women who are gold diggers chasing money or “moochers” trying to get money by having children and collecting child support.
Stop saying how much you “don’t need a man” because this doesn’t impress anyone and it’s more likely to keep you from having a good one.
When a man enters your life, he’ll see what you have going on, your intelligence and your lifestyle.
This perception that comes from slavery pushes the notion that White women are sweet and docile while Black women are wild, angry and uncontrollable. There are plenty of White women on the show who kill their men out of anger, rage and jealously. If someone treats you badly, aren’t you going to react?