Never have I had desires of having control over or having my way with a man.
There are many paths…this path just happens to suit me especially well, and many other women.For those of us who are naturally submissive, who show love through acts of service and devotion, who have found trustworthy partners/Doms who appreciate our way of showing love and appreciate our need to serve that exists deeply within our bellies…there is no greater freedom; to be able to live in agreement with our deepest natures. Again, I wouldn’t advocate a Dom/sub lifestyle unless it is in agreement with your and your partners’ true natures.Again, this only works because I judge Him as wise, just, fair and trustworthy. For them, living this way and deferring their desires to what their men want would probably be repressive to their spirits.I don’t believe in telling people that this is the right and only way to live.I did not know what benefits a woman might reap from such a relationship on a day to day level and therefore had no reason to think about how one would struggle to find peace within society upon being open with their lifestyle.
I am thankful for the honesty with which we have been able to explore this.The key word is worthy—someone who is naturally Dominant, honest, knows Himself, appreciates my adoration and service and is worthy of my trust.However, I never thought of living this way 24/7 until last fall when my Husband, now Dom, and I discussed trying this lifestyle as a way to help me deal with chronic anxiety. I can get stuck in a worst-case scenario or processing loop over most any decision.And as another friend said to me recently, if that means chained to our kitchen sink because that is what we desire, then so be it. Ideally the innate natures of each party are in line with these roles resulting in a synergistic relationship of mutual delight and adoration.But that sounds awfully technical…the best nonsexual example I can give is that of an adoring dog owner and dog.She has courage and wisdom to spare and wishes to open a door for other women to face their deepest held needs. It is a relationship where the submissive party has voluntarily handed over authority/control of their body, possessions and actions to the Dominant party.